Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself Paperback – 30 Mar. 2021

The author lays out the points in straightforward terms, and leaves very little wiggle room. There are concrete sentences and examples that are extremely, EXTREMELY helpful. It really should have been that simple all along. Reading this made me realise just how much more peace and freedom I could have had my whole life. It also gives practical guides for how to actually set the boundaries. I think we commonly take in words from other people's mouths just so readily, not realising that words not just only mean something, but DO things to our soul as well. But so very often people who struggle with boundaries treat utterances as "equal" and respond to them without verifying if we need to respond in the first place. It's not just about saying No or total rejection. It's about all the follow-ups and enacting the intention behind the "no" as well. In other words, this book is very nuanced, and not some simplistic BS about "rejecting toxic people" "just say no", etc. Tawwab goes through why it matters and how to really make it a principle. A transformative read that should be taught in high school!

Good read

Bought this book after my brilliant councelling tutor recommended it.This books has boundary fraze examples to use or to give you ideas on how to set them in place and inforce them.Its a simple book to understand.Categories for work bosses family.Its a go to if you need mental strength and how to say No with tactfulness.Great if you know someone who has no filter.

This is the first “self help” style book I’ve managed to complete entirely - usually giving up by the half way point and finding them repetitive and useless. This book however has been a hugely pleasant surprise that has enabled me to instigate boundaries at work, at home and how to tackle common types of reactions from people. The book is clear and concise and is by my bedside to use as constant reference guide. For me, the discomfort of setting boundaries always used to put me off, but the author explains that discomfort is part of the boundary process and nothing to be worried about. Since buying this book I have found my voice and if you are in need of some help setting boundaries, I can’t recommend this book enough!

I picked this book for my book club and everyone loved it.We enjoyed it and all agreed that it would be hard for anyone to not find it useful. It's very straight up, no hiding. Very useful and also challenged each of us to consider others' boundaries a little better.A great read and all 6 of us would recommend it. The audible is also great - I was a little late finishing reading it so listened on Audible. The book is really handy as the layout is well considered - Ill be coming back to it over and over.

If you're a people pleaser and constantly put everyone before yourself, this book will really help you to have more healthy boundaries. It's an easy book to read - simple language, well-laid out and has an understandable flow. Really recommend!

Being a counsellor I enjoy reading on a wide range of subjects related to psychotherapy, and found this book highly informative and enjoyable to read. It’s a little light on referencing which isn’t necessarily a bad as the author includes a Further Reading section at the end. I do wonder though that as Nedra works in this field if her own previous study has been integrated into her working knowledge so when she writes it flows as from her own combined expertise, knowledge and previous study.It’s a book I think I will re-read in the future.

This book was recommended to me by my counsellor about boundaries having with myself. I don’t think this book touched on that nearly enough if at all. I was very disappointed by that. The book is so repetitive that I had to skip some parts because it was honestly too frustrating to read the same thing so many times within the same book. However the message is still good and helpful, but it felt like it was holding back a lot, as the examples used were so basic and lacked relatability. The problems would be simple ones that common sense could solve, like “Anna was so confused about why she never has time” then it turns out “Anna” was constantly doing things for people she didn’t want to do, which was eating into her personal time, and the author lets us know she needs boundaries by saying no. It’s not rocket science that she needs to say no to something she doesn’t want to do. Yet it doesn’t actually talk about how to get past the fear and other reasons why people don’t say no. It just tells you to do it. By the very end I had to stop reading because I didn’t feel like it helped me that much. However I do now understand how essential boundaries are in ALL situations (as someone who is quite passive). If you are BRAND new to the concept of boundaries this book may be for you. However if you are someone looks for way to use them in day to day life, maybe not so much.